Between boys and girls, in the end there is no pure friendship? In fact, this issue has been controversial until now, there is no complete conclusion.
People who believe there is pure friendship between men and women believe that men and women decide to be friends because they are unsuitable lovers. When I chose to be friends, I will naturally remain friends.
People who think that there is no pure friendship think that opposite-sex friends are just pretending to be friends and enjoying ambiguous relationships. The two sides are not just friends in language and behavior.
I think there is pure friendship between opposite-sex friends. As long as two people can clearly identify each other, know where each other’s boundaries, what to do, what not to do, get along outside this boundary, will harvest a pure friendship.
I do have a lot of friends of the opposite sex. In the course of getting along, their affection grows imperceptibly, and they forget each other’s boundaries, leading to this quality of pure friendship.
So, if you spend time with the opposite sex, and do these three things regularly, 90% of the time, they will fall in love!
1. Keep in touch.
The development of Internet has brought great convenience to our life. If you want to contact someone, just click on their profile picture and type.
But even online, ordinary friends of the opposite sex keep a reasonable distance and don’t stay in touch all the time.
After all, everyone has their own life. When he is busy, he has no time for anything. How does he have so much time to stay in touch with his casual online friends? At most, he’ll talk about something.
2. See each other alone often.
Ordinary heterosexual friends are shy to meet alone in private. Even if they have something to meet, they will pull a few friends together, just to avoid resentment.
Because men and women meeting alone will certainly cause others to misunderstand, cause some unnecessary speculation.
But if two people don’t care about other people’s eyes at all, always make a private appointment, it means that two people care about each other, and may even miss each other, so nothing is considered, just meet. In the long run, being in love for a long time is inevitable.
3. Frequent physical contact
It’s part of a person’s privacy, like holding hands, touching the head. It’s normal for couples or gay friends.
However, if a friend of the opposite sex does this, it is difficult for others not to take it the wrong way. After all, these movements are intimate, and distance is even more important. It’s hard for two people not to be “in love for a long time.”
If the average male/female friend is always communicating frequently in private and trying to contact each other, it shows that both of them rely on each other and trust each other. At this rate, they’ll be together.